Book Review—Not If, But When

Disclaimer: I received a FREE copy of this product through the HOMESCHOOL REVIEW CREW in
exchange for my honest review. I was not required to write a positive review nor was I
compensated in any other way.

As a mother of several boys, I am always happy to find a product that will help in teaching them godliness in their personal lives. When I saw the book Not If, But When being offered for review by the publisher, Christian Focus, and read the description, I was immediately interested. The subtitle, Preparing Our Children for Wordly Images, really only hints at the content of this book; I was glad that there were some sample pages on the publisher’s website. Looking at those helped me make the decision to request the book, and I’m glad I did. I read this book aloud to all five of my boys yesterday afternoon when the rain kept us all inside, and then talked about it with them during and after the reading.

This book contains two stories, one each for girls and boys. Since my girls are not within the age range for this book, I didn’t read the part for girls very closely. It is very similar to the one for boys. The story begins with a child coming home from a day at the waterpark with his/her class, and coming to a parent with questions about his/her friends talking about s-xual things. The child also had a friend show them some pornography pictures on a phone that day. As the parent discusses these occurences with the child, God’s design for s-x is discussed; God designed it and it is a very good thing—in the right context and timing. During the discussion about the pictures shown, the parent talks about how that type of picture objectifies and disrespects people that God made, and about how viewing it becomes an addiction. The child compares this to an addiction to coffee, which made my boys chuckle! Each short chapter has a scripture passage to read, and some thoughts to help focus the study.

The book is a high-quality hardcover with thick, glossy pages. It is beautifully illustrated with somewhat stylized pictures of children and homes, for the most part. The pictures actually have little or nothing to do with the subject matter of the book. My 5-year-old girl loves looking at the pictures, and because she can’t read, I don’t mind her browsing through it.

I asked each of my three teenage boys what they thought of this book and how it made them feel. One, especially, felt like it was helpful to him. He has struggled some in this area and appreciated the encouragement to keep his thoughts pure. The other two didn’t feel like they needed it so much. One of them thought it would have been a good book for him to read at about age 13. They all agreed that the way the topic of s-x was discussed in this book was pure, and helpful as a reminder to keep their thoughts pure. Because none of our boys has any close friends who have their own phones, they haven’t been faced with a situation like what was described in the story, so they couldn’t really identify with that part of the book. I am hoping that if such a situation arises, having heard this story will help my younger ones know how to handle it. Reading the book together gave an opportunity to discuss strategies to cope with such a situation; the publisher recommends this book for ages 7-11, with a parent reading it with them.

I am thankful to have had the chance to read this book, and plan to go through it again in a couple of years with my younger children. In the world in which we live today, it is truly a case of Not If, But When.

***The publisher accidentally sent me two copies of this book, and I have permission to give the extra one away. If you live in New Zealand, and would like your own copy of this book, let me know and I’ll mail it to you. If more than one person requests it, I will draw a name.***

Fifty-three families have read three different books from Christian Focus. Click the image below to read their reviews!